Our sleep situation has gone from bad to worse. It took me over an hour to get her to sleep last night and even still she was up every hour until about midnight and then she was up for long stretches. It’s all a bit of a blur to be honest. She’s taken two naps today and both times it’s taken me over 30 minutes to get her down. As much as I’d like to continue nursing her into a deep sleep, I just can’t leave my two year old alone downstairs for that long.
Today I feel completely out of sorts. I am extremely sleep deprived as these kind of shenanigans have been going on for weeks.
Sweet baby girl, on the other hand, doesn’t seem bothered by the lack of sleep at all. In fact she’s really happy. I don’t get it. And because she’s so happy it makes the thought of sleep training her even more unappealing. I mean, if she’s happy that’s all that matters, right?
I wish it was that simple.
She is extremely attached to nursing to sleep, and I need to break that association. Not only is it getting harder to unlatch her without waking her, but no one else can put her down.
So starting tonight we are breaking that habit. And it is not going to be fun.
Here’s the plan:
The new bedtime routine will begin at 6:30 with a bath. I’ll then nurse her in our room (where her crib is), put her in her pjs, read two books, get her in her sleep sack and sing her her bedtime song (hers is Lavender Blue) while turning out the lights and turning on the sound machine. And then – and this is the tricky part – I will lay her in her crib – probably around 7. She will look up at me, smile, and fall asleep.
There will be no crying. This whole thing will cause me no anxiety whatsoever.
OK, seriously though, she will cry. My plan is to do gradual checks. I’m thinking I’ll play it by ear depending on the cry. And gradually leave more and more time between checks.
With our son we had to do the full out let him cry because every time we went in he got more and more upset. I hope this isn’t the case with her.
I don’t intent to cut out night feeds, but only after 4 hours from her last feed. Any other wakeups I will check and console, like I did at bedtime.
Ugh, I was really hoping to avoid this whole sleep training thing. I just think the longer I wait, the harder it will be. I also know, having gone through it with my son, that it works. The first few days are the hardest but then once she’s used to the new routine bedtime will be a lot less painful for all of us.
Wish us luck!!!! We’re going to need it!!