There are a lot of things I’ve done over the 14 months (well, plus 9 while pregnant) that I don’t feel guilty for. These things include:
- Having a glass of wine while pregnant. I think I had three over the course of my pregnancy.
- Taking two weeks sick leave before my due date. He was a week early so I really only got a week. And I was actually sick with a terrible cold.
- Cosleeping. I would do it again.
- Leaving the baby alone to play. I do this still. He spends a lot of time playing alone while I do my thing.
- Letting him cry it out at 6 months. More about this in a future post.
- Letting him nap on me for a year. I didn’t feel guilt but I did find this incredibly frustrating some days.
- Going back to work. I believe being back at work makes me a better mom. More about this later too.
There are some things I do feel guilty about, though I wish I wouldn’t. They are:
- Talking/writing about the hard time I had. I feel bad for not focusing on the amazing and wonderful things, but I also need a way to come to terms with everything, especially if we’re going to have a second. Which is really why I stated this blog.
- That my 14 month old isn’t talking. My friends baby, who is 2 weeks older, says all kinds of words on demand. I know he’ll do this when he’s ready but I can’t help feeling that there’s something we’re not doing.
- Not putting him in daycare. I know, this is crazy. My husband is home with him while I work and it’s amazing, but I feel sometimes that he’s missing out on some important socialization that help him do things, like talk.
I try not to get caught up in what we should/shouldn’t be doing and just enjoy him. He’s really so amazing right now and healthy and happy so we must be doing something right.